All right, did I give that too much of a glowing review?  When I said I realized I "could do it all,"  I had just realized I had been living below my potential as a mother and a woman.  The things I learned that helped me feel impowered were things like, "lower you expectations," "recognize your stage of life and let some of the unessential things wait," "I don't have to do it all right now," "its okay to take a nap" and "stop trying to be perfect." Love this quote by Anna Quindlen, "The thing that is really hard and really amazing is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself."  The presenter then continued, "If you do "become yourself" you will be perfect because you will be who you were created to become."  I learned to say no to other obligations as well as other specific ideas on how to be a better mom.